Wednesday, January 10, 2018

Don't Assume I Don't Care

Full disclosure- I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook.  There. I said it. 
I keep threatening to take a social media break. Or at the very least to check it only once a day instead of the numerous times that I do but would hate to confess to.

I admit it. I have an insane and growing fear of my missing a post and then my not commenting will be interpreted as "I don’t care."

But here is the reality.
I cannot ever see everyone’s posts due to the insane way Facebook works. 
As busy as my feed is there is a real possibility I will never see your post even if I scroll for hours. 
But I know (because I am guilty of the assumption as well) that most people post something and then assume everyone that needs to has read said post. It has become the way to communicate. Got something to say?  Post it. Need to pass information? Post it. 

We put it out there for the world to see and yet we have no idea if 10 or 10,000 people have seen it. 

Trust me I know. I see the stats of my Family, Faith and Fridays FB page. Some times the people reached is 25. Sometimes, if I am lucky that day and used the right words, it is 225. Despite the fact that over 1500 follow that feed. 

And yet we just keep loading our feeds with the stuff of our lives and expecting that all of our friends now know those details.

Honestly, in a season of my life where I desperately long to slow down and be quiet, it all weighs on my mind.  I am a people pleaser you know.  I want you to know I care!

It is a privilege to be a part of people’s lives and to have the opportunity to lift them in prayer. That is the thing I love about Facebook. But surely there is a better way to do that than social media in some cases.

Call me. Write me. Text me even.  But don't assume I don't care if I do not respond to your Facebook post.  Please know that me not responding to your post is not a statement on my feelings for you or your worth.

That being said, I am trying to step back for a while and put my family before Facebook.  I will be posting for Family, Faith and Fridays and continuing my part of social media for The Homeschool Review Crew, but other than that I will be checking in just one time a day.  I need a break from the hoopla.
But friends, I am not taking a break from you. 
I am here. Reach out if you need me. Reach out if you have a prayer request. And reach out just to
chat.  I play by different rules than Facebook, and unlike them, I am not randomly choosing whom I see. I always choose you!!


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  1. I can totally relate to this post. I have some family members who 'unfriended' my husband because he 'never' liked their posts. They don't seem to get the point that Facebook doesn't show everyone's posts.

    1. I am so sorry Kristen! How hurtful. I honestly think that most people do not understand how FB works!

  2. sweet post... of caring for others and family. Good stuff.


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