Parent Training Center Giveaway for Churches

You may have already seen that I have partnered up with The National Center for Biblical Parenting again and am currently reading and reviewing their book, Parenting is Heart Work.  Like the other other resources I have reviewed for them, The Family Toolbox and  Motivate Your Child, and Motivate Your Child Action Plan,  Parenting is Heart Work is filled with biblical references and examples to help you parent based on God's standard rather than the worlds.  Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN  have worked hard to help you reach the heart of your child rather than base all of your discipline off behavior modification.  In doing so we are training our children to use their conscious to guide their lives, rather than external stimuli.  It is an amazing concept, and one that is slowly changing the way we parent in our home.  Now the National Center for Biblical Parenting is working on partnering up with churches to help get this invaluable information into the hands of even more parents through local churches.

A Parent Training Center is a church that intentionally trains parents, providing resources and tools both for discipleship of believers and for evangelism to families in the community.

The National Center for Biblical Parenting offers resources, and practical support to help you become the Parent Training Center God designed. The Equipping Program contains a number of mobilization tools to help you advance to the next level in your parent discipleship ministry.

With this program you'll interact with experts as well as other pastors and church leaders. Receive personalized guidance for your unique church situations. Use resources that will equip your parents to reach their children's hearts.

 To introduce your church to the Parent Training Center concept, we are hosting an awesome giveaway that includes some of our best church and parent training resources, along with a $100 gift certificate to the National Center for Biblical Parenting store. Here's what your church could win: 

Parenting Is Heart Work DVD Church Kit ($199.95 value)

Equip parents to touch the hearts of their kids with this biblically-based, practical training program. Parents and teachers of children 2-18 years will benefit from this life-changing curriculum. The Parenting is Heart Work Church Kit includes: • Eight 35-minute video sessions • A Leader's Guide with reproducible pages for attendees • A copy of the 256 page book Parenting is Heart Work

The videos were filmed before a live audience of parents and children. Using drama, Bible stories, and lots of illustrations, Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN will energize you and provide you with tools you need to strengthen your family. Use this eight-part video series in your church, small group, or even in your own family. Many times parents have to change the way they parent in order for children to change the way they live.

 

The Family Toolbox DVD Church Kit ($179.95 value)

he Family Toolbox has 8 lessons for parents, teens, or both in a small group setting. Each one has a 1-2 minute scene of a family living life and experiencing common challenges in their relationships. A discussion guide prompts dialogue among parents and a 10-minute teaching session featuring Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN gives practical tools to use right away.

As the group works through the lessons parents learn:

• How to focus on the heart instead of just behavior • The cues you give that tell your children when you mean business • Practical ways to remove conflict from the problems of family life • How to end correction times with impact • A tool for maximizing heart change in the correction process • The value of teaching kids to accept no as an answer • Ways to reduce anger episodes in children

The Family Toolbox is designed for families with children ten years old and up and is an excellent resource for small groups. Each lesson can be done in 20-30 minutes, but could also lead to discussion and dialogue lasting an hour or more.

Coupon to purchase resources in the NCBP Store ($100 value)

Visit the NCBP store to discover a plethora of church and parent training resources. 

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Terms and Conditions: This giveaway is open to residents of the U. S. only.  Void where prohibited by law. Must be at least 18 years of age. This giveaway is in no away associated with Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest.. No purchase necessary for entry. Odds are determined by the number of entries. Selected winner will have 48 hours to respond to email notification to claim their prize or another winner will be drawn.  Entrants to this giveaway will be added to the email list for the National Center of Biblical Parenting.

Blessings,

Using the Motivate Your Child Action Plan in Our Life (book review, coupon code, and giveaway link!)

What motivates your child to do what is right?
You?  Consequences?  Fear?  Rewards?

I have to admit, that answer is probably different for all of our children. We have  used and seen a little of all of those motivators.  Because our children range from 21 years old down to 7, our parenting has changed though the years.  Let's face it, so have we!  We expected order and obedience from our oldest three at early ages.  We got it.  We taught parenting classes and sweetly told everyone how easy it was to raise obedient children.  It was for us.  Then.

But then our fourth child entered our life in a whirlwind and parenting has not been the same.

Peace turned to chaos.
Obedience to struggles.
And confidence to doubt!  OURS, not his!

Oh, he is loved fiercely!  But, oh, is he a challenge.  Daily.  Sometimes hourly.  And honestly, sometimes the joy of parenting gets lost in the battles we face.

But God never promised easy.  He just promised Him.  And with His help, and now the valuable insight and coaching of Dr, Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller RN, co authors of Motivate Your Child Action Plan, we feel like we are on a better path headed towards success.

It may be a slow and winding path, but I know it is one worth the travel.

I had the privilege of reading and reviewing Motivate Your Child back in January.  It was then that I fell in love with and was sold on the concept of Heart Parenting.  This involves putting rewards and consequences and such on the back burner and reaching the heart of the child.  The real place that motivates your child and their behavior.  Then and only then can and will your child be able to regulate and choose to change their own behavior.

Yes, my son will become obedient while in the direct line of consequences, but then what?  Or what if I am not there to be that regulating factor?

The bottom line is that our children, and well as us all quite frankly, need to be able to regulate our own behavior based on our conscious and the work of the Holy Spirit in our lives.  We must look in our heart, choose what we know to be right, and then do that right thing.  We must teach our children to be internally motivated.  Easier said than done for some of us, but make no mistake, teaching character is important!

Motivate Your Child Action Plan takes those basic concepts and more and fleshes them out in a 12 chapter step by step guide.  Each chapter builds on the previous one to help you, the parent, identify the problems you feel your child needs to work on, match them with a positive character trait that will help you move forward and then come up with a specific and measurable plan to do so.

• Chapter 1- Change in Forty Days
• Chapter 2- Where Do You Want Me To Go?
• Chapter 3- The Map To Get There
• Chapter 4- Working Together
• Chapter 5- A Place For Firmness
• Chapter 6- Visioning Moves You Forward
• Chapter 7- Teaching Shows The Way
• Chapter 8- Spiritual Energy Provides Strength
• Chapter 9- Coaching Sets Attitude
• chapter 10- Building Motivation From Within
• Chapter 11- Growing Together
• Chapter 12- Good Theology Makes it Work

At the end of each chapter is a section call Have a Meeting with Your Child, that encourages you to have a meeting with your child about where you are in the plan.  It involves a lot of positive reinforcement and allows your child to know that you are a team working together to help them move forward.  Instead of focusing on all of the negatives, you will be focusing on solution and long term goals.  There is then a place for you to write down thoughts and ideas you may have.

I have to tell you, after reading Motivate Your Child Action Plan I was initially discouraged.  At the very beginning you are asked to write out specific behaviors and incidences that you identify as a problem in your child's behavior.  Guys, my list went on for pages.  Seriously, it sent me to bed that night in tears and overwhelmed.  But one of the things that Dr Turansky and Joanne repeatedly emphasize is prayer and asking the Lord to help you and your child.  So I went to bed praying that night for clarity and a renewed spirit.

I would like to say that it has been clear sailing since, but that would not be reality.  What is reality however is that I am far less overwhelmed and much more determined to make this work.  I KNOW I believe in the concepts.  I just know we have a lot of work to do.  That is one of the reasons I love that this book takes the system and breaks it into small steps you can work on a little at a time.  Then once you get that step done, you add a little more.  Think of it as layering of sorts.  Slowly, we are working our way through this plan. Each day we discuss the character traits we are working on and why it is important for us to work on them. Each day we look for reasons to celebrate our progress. And each day God reveals a little glimmer of hope to hold on to!

The other thing I love is that in the front of this book you will find a link to audio downloads that correspond to each chapter.  I needed these!  While I loved the book and am now re reading every chapter, I also love that I can listen to the authors.  There is just something about hearing their own voices and additional comments that have encouraged me to stay in the rink and keep fighting.

If you too see areas of weakness in your child's behavior or character and would like concrete methods to use to work on those ares, Motivate Your Child Action Plan is a great book to help you and one I highly recommend!  Did I mention HIGHLY?  Plus, until the end of the month it is on sale!

Let me also take a minute to encourage you to check out The National Center for Biblical Parenting Website.  I have found, and ordered, more than a few additional resources that I am eager to get started using.  You will find VBS curriculum, parenting books and more.  There are some great resources on anger, one of the issues we are dealing with, as well as information on how you can get one on one coaching via phone from Dr. Turansky.

There is also still time to enter the drawing to win a copy of Motivate Your Child and Motivate Your Child Action plan, as well as an iPod Touch and many other cool prizes, by going to this link!  Quick, it ends tonight and the winner will be announced at the FB party tomorrow night!  Don't forget to RSVP!

You can order Motivate Your Child Action Plan at a discounted price using the discount code below!

It is my heartfelt prayer that God will use this book to help many struggling parents out there who, like me, love their children greatly and want to see them become the confident and loving individuals God intends for them to be.

Blessings.

What Motivates Your Child?- Book Review

Have you noticed that some stages of parenting are easier than others?  I mean, I know that they all have their challenges, but really, I have found that some stages are just harder for me than others.   Like the one I am in now.  You know - the "yes, I want to do that, no, I do not want to do that, you are not nice, I am running away tomorrow, I do not like you, I am not listening to you, no, the sky is not blue, it is red and green polka dot" stage.  Anyone else there?

OK, it may not be that bad everyday, but we are getting close.  Add to that a strong-willed, spicy, adopted child with a Latino personality whose dad is currently deployed, and let's just say I am being challenged.  A lot.  And I feel like I am at a breaking point.  His AND mine!

So, when the opportunity arose to be a part of the book launch team for Motivate Your Child, A Christian Parent's Guide to Raising Kids Who Do What They Need to Do Without Being Told, I may just have begged to be a part of it.  Ok, I begged. Thank you National Center for Biblical Parenting!

Written by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, Motivate Your Child is 254 pages of parenting wisdom.  Based on scriptural doctrine and years of experience between the authors, it focuses on the concept of internal motivation.  Part 1 discusses the Moral Development in Children and Part 2 discusses Spiritual Development in Children.  21 chapters are packed with discussions, ideas, and sound advice.

What motivates my child?  Right now, I am pretty sure it is NOT internally generated.  Both in the younger child and olders alike at times.  Everyone is good at doing what they are asked to do.  Well, most everyone.  But Dr. Turansky and Mrs. Miller contend that a parent's objective should be to teach a child to recognize needs on their own and be internally motivated to react. Not to simply obey when told or asked.  Mom and dad will not always be around to tell them what to do, when to do it, or how to do it.  They need to be able to get to those things on their own eventually.

This is where the Holy Spirit, scripture, a good plan, and even a guilty conscious come into play. Yes, even a guilty conscious is a good thing sometimes.

One of the things I love about Motivate Your Child is that it is full of real life examples and the recommended solution.  Not just a "you should do this" solution, but a very specific "this is how you can word it" solution.  Complete with Biblical examples.  I am a detail person.  This book gives the details I need.

I am willing to bet you will like the details as well.

Let me give you an example.  One of the things the authors discuss is what to do after a child has done something wrong.  Trust me, I perked up my ears quickly because I have one that likes to throw out a quick "I am sorry, do you forgive me?" and then think all is well with the world.  Instead, the authors recommend working through the following with your child after an offense-

  -Confession - what did I do wrong?
  -Getting to the heart - why was that wrong?
  -Developing a plan for next time - what am I going to do differently next time?

Consider this-

"Repentance isn't just stopping something.  It's a 180-degree turn, choosing to do something right instead." -page 69

YES!  That is what I have been trying to say, but not as well.  I want my child to not only know what he or she did wrong and not do it again, but why they should not do it again!  And how to not do it again.

Have we perfected it?  Not by a long shot.  Remember, strong-willed, yada, yada, yada.

But we are working on it.

"When a child acts out and does the wrong thing, it's because emotions or desires become stronger than convictions and character.  All these things are in the heart.  Much of the work of parenting is identifying what heart quality needs development and then practicing it to increase internal strength." -page 56

So that's where we land right now.  Heart parenting.  A whole lot of practicing, but at least I feel like things are not hopeless.  I feel better equipped.

And I hope that you, too, will feel better equipped as a parent after reading Motivating Your Child! Yesterday was the official release day and already the book is leaping to the top of the charts. For good reason!  If you order by the end of the month you can still take advantage of the FREE resources being offered.  You can also enter our amazing team giveaway for your chance to win a Go Pro camera and more.  Today is the last day, so don't wait on that one!

Whether you are a new parent just starting out or one with teens AND toddlers in tow, Motivate Your Child is a book you need on your shelf.  I highly recommend it!

Blessings,